Here’s the fantasy: You and/or your partner want to spice up your sex life by adding at least one other person into the mix.
The One-Man Gangbang (OMG), which, to be clear, has nothing to do with gang violence or any form of non-consensual sexual contact. Rather, this is a way to live out a particular brand of PornHub kink — all it takes is a bit of imagination, role-playing, and maybe a couple of distinctive accents to pull off.
Allow me to explain.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to add a little heat to a mundane sex life. So often our fantasies remain just that — things we say we want to try with our partners but never act on. And that’s okay, too. Many of our kinkiest fantasies come with staggering repercussions that stand to ruin lives and destroy relationships. There’s an incredible amount of responsibility for the physical safety and mental health of everyone involved, and it is not unusual for the sexual fantasies that once seemed thrilling to wind up causing pain.
One-Man Gangbang has entered the chat.
First, set the mood. If your fantasy happens at a wild sex party, stream group sex porn in the background. If it takes place in the Playboy Mansion’s infamous grotto during the 1970s, play the appropriate music, slip into the pool or hot tub in your backyard, and be sure your neighbors can’t see you (or, fuck it, dare them to watch). Whether you and your partner have a librarian, teacher, housekeeper, robber, or office fantasy, set the stage and get ready to play your roles.
Squeeze, grab, slap, push, and pull — whatever you know she likes. Then, just as the sex hits its crescendo, pull out and yell, “Next!”
The OMG works best if your partner is either blindfolded or in a doggystyle position, so that she can’t see you. This will help her imagination take flight. To heighten the experience, consider asking if she’s willing to have her hands loosely tied together or otherwise secured to assure she doesn’t touch you. This makes it easier for her to lose any sense of familiarity once the fantasy begins. At the very least, your partner can tuck her hands underneath the pillows or hold onto the edge of the bed, pool, or kitchen counter, depending on the location of your OMG fantasy.
With her eyes averted and hands secure, enter your partner as usual. Make her feel sexy, loved, wanted, and eroticized. Take your passionate intensity to a level beyond your regular sexual routine. Start slow, make her warm, and then hot as you increase the speed, depth, and pressure of your thrust. Squeeze, grab, slap, push, and pull — whatever you know she likes. Then, just as the sex hits its crescendo, pull out and yell, “Next!”
Her body will want more, and you’re about to give it to her, but not as yourself. This is where your role-playing skills come in. Switch up your accent, stroke, and dirty talk as you reenter your partner as Nick the pool man from Little Italy, Tunde the exchange student from Nigeria, and then Bo the cattle herder from Texas. Between each character, signal a changing of the sexual guard by yelling out, “Next!” and be sure to make each fantasy partner different from the others. For example, maybe Nick has a slow but deep stroke, Tunde likes to hit it doggystyle in a squatting position, and Bo is a first-timer who takes more of a jackrabbit approach. Whatever you do, make them different and keep your OMG interesting.
One of the most beautiful things about being with one person — a partner who you love and trust, and who loves and trusts you — is the sexual freedom found in your monogamous relationship. You don’t have to worry about the emotional and physical dangers that come with being one of many, and even your freakiest fantasies can be explored without either of you risking exploitation. For most of us, inviting other people into our sexual lives just isn’t an option, but that shouldn’t mean that our fantasies can’t be fulfilled. All it takes is a little creativity and imagination, a consenting partner, this book, and a strong lock on your bedroom door if you have children at home. Have your fantasies, have lots of sex, and most importantly, have fun!
This post originally appeared on Medium and is edited and republished with author's permission. Read more of Elisabeth Ovesen's work on Medium.